stress argh
Jul. 14th, 2010 11:41 am![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png){kind=small}
ravnsdaughterNew job! Yay! I am very excited about that! I can hardly wait to start it!
But in the meantime, holy stressballs Batman. The past couple of days have topped the stress I've had in the 6 months, all due to my decision to leave.
My boss had me post an ad on Craigslist to find a replacement for me, the day after I gave him my notice, because he's almost totally computer illiterate. The resumes have trickled in ever since then, but they've pretty much all been total crap. My boss keeps wondering why, and doesn't seem to listen when I tell him that there are people out there who just send out a resume in response to every ad out there, hoping that eventually one will be a hit. That's really quite obvious what's going on here.
I have a week left here, and he is obviously stressing himself, and I don't blame him. I'm trying my damndest to not take this stress on myself, and to not give a crap, but because of the way I am, it's really difficult and not working very well.
Truth is, it's time for him to retire. He's 66 and his memory is total crap. I've seen his memory degrade in the year and a half I've been here - it used to not be so bad, he would get interrupted while dictating something and be able to pick up really close to where he left off, but I just typed out two letters where he dictated 75% of it, got interrupted, and then forgot he'd done any of it and redictated the entire thing.
If he continues to practice, he needs an assistant who can take care of him - look after everything, including his memory, and keep things going here. He can't train them in ANYTHING - not even the law stuff, because half the time he forgets the intricacies of the procedures, and the rules were just changed anyways so even I'm going to be learning new stuff at my new job on how to deal with the new rules and forms. He needs someone who's been doing family and wills & estates for at least 5-7 years, just like me. But he can't pay for it. He is paying me well, I guess it's not TOO bad of money, but he thinks that 30 hours a week is enough, which it isn't, plus he doesn't want to have to do payroll so he has his assistant on contract, which is a big pain in the butt. I took the job to get myself back on my feet, and I'm really thankful for that, but now it's time to move on to something better. But he's going to have a hard time finding someone else that can do this job the way he needs it to be done.
There's really nothing I can do but just stick it out for this last week, and I guess in the end, this entry is just venting my frustrations. But between this and the stress at home, I am just SO ready to tear my hair out!
But in the meantime, holy stressballs Batman. The past couple of days have topped the stress I've had in the 6 months, all due to my decision to leave.
My boss had me post an ad on Craigslist to find a replacement for me, the day after I gave him my notice, because he's almost totally computer illiterate. The resumes have trickled in ever since then, but they've pretty much all been total crap. My boss keeps wondering why, and doesn't seem to listen when I tell him that there are people out there who just send out a resume in response to every ad out there, hoping that eventually one will be a hit. That's really quite obvious what's going on here.
I have a week left here, and he is obviously stressing himself, and I don't blame him. I'm trying my damndest to not take this stress on myself, and to not give a crap, but because of the way I am, it's really difficult and not working very well.
Truth is, it's time for him to retire. He's 66 and his memory is total crap. I've seen his memory degrade in the year and a half I've been here - it used to not be so bad, he would get interrupted while dictating something and be able to pick up really close to where he left off, but I just typed out two letters where he dictated 75% of it, got interrupted, and then forgot he'd done any of it and redictated the entire thing.
If he continues to practice, he needs an assistant who can take care of him - look after everything, including his memory, and keep things going here. He can't train them in ANYTHING - not even the law stuff, because half the time he forgets the intricacies of the procedures, and the rules were just changed anyways so even I'm going to be learning new stuff at my new job on how to deal with the new rules and forms. He needs someone who's been doing family and wills & estates for at least 5-7 years, just like me. But he can't pay for it. He is paying me well, I guess it's not TOO bad of money, but he thinks that 30 hours a week is enough, which it isn't, plus he doesn't want to have to do payroll so he has his assistant on contract, which is a big pain in the butt. I took the job to get myself back on my feet, and I'm really thankful for that, but now it's time to move on to something better. But he's going to have a hard time finding someone else that can do this job the way he needs it to be done.
There's really nothing I can do but just stick it out for this last week, and I guess in the end, this entry is just venting my frustrations. But between this and the stress at home, I am just SO ready to tear my hair out!
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Date: 2010-07-14 07:45 pm (UTC)no subject
Date: 2010-07-14 07:55 pm (UTC)no subject
Date: 2010-07-15 06:25 pm (UTC)It's not my monkey.
This is not your issue, it is your soon-to-be-ex-boss' issue. Let his stress flow right past you. You only have to get through this week, right? And it's Thursday now, so you have today and tomorrow. You can do it.
As for stress at home, is there anything I can do to help?
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Date: 2010-07-15 07:02 pm (UTC)As for home, that's actually starting to get a lot better, but I appreciate the thought. :) I discovered one of Ian's weaknesses - he has a BIG competitive streak. I made a big to-do list for getting the apartment into shape, and broke it down into small specific chunks. Being able to check items off on a list and see a bunch of check marks piling up works well to fuel my motivation, and that was the original thought in making the list.
But then I had an idea. I told Ian he had two choices. #1 - I do all the tidying/organizing/putting away, and then hire a maid on a one-time thing to scrub my floors and toilets and tubs. #2 - I challenged him to a contest - each item on the list is worth a point. Everything on the list has to be done by next Wednesday (idea being that I want to start my new job with a spotless house), and whoever has the most points on that list gets bought dinner of their choice by the other person, maximum value $100.00. His eyes lit up when I said this... and he took up my challenge. Now he's plotting ways to try and win the contest. Little does he realize, either way, we both win. Even if I have to buy dinner, I win because he helped me with the housework. If I win, I get dinner of my choice (Olive Garden!) and he still helped me with the housework.
And then he's been warned that once the house is clean, I'm making chore lists to keep up with it. especially since my free time is taking a 10 hour a week hit.
The rest of the stress is just me and my stupid mental shit, related to the fact that one of his sisters got engaged last night after only dating for 6 months (and they're so not in a situation like you and Rick - they barely acknowledged they were dating for like the first 3 months of that). So Ian and I got into a big discussion last night and it left me feeling really strange.
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Date: 2010-07-20 09:03 pm (UTC)And EVERY time, it's worked out that way.
Patterns. I sees dem.
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Date: 2010-07-20 09:00 pm (UTC)