Yeah, I've managed to pretty much tell myself that it's not my problem, I just have to come in, do my work while I'm here, and that's it. And today's payday and tomorrow the boss is out, so those are good things. I actually have 3 days here next week though - my last day is Wednesday and then I start the new job on Thursday. I wanted a couple days off in between, but the new job specifically asked that I start Thursday since my new boss will be out all next week, and the bookkeeper/paralegal can train me on the stuff that's specific to their office procedures.
As for home, that's actually starting to get a lot better, but I appreciate the thought. :) I discovered one of Ian's weaknesses - he has a BIG competitive streak. I made a big to-do list for getting the apartment into shape, and broke it down into small specific chunks. Being able to check items off on a list and see a bunch of check marks piling up works well to fuel my motivation, and that was the original thought in making the list.
But then I had an idea. I told Ian he had two choices. #1 - I do all the tidying/organizing/putting away, and then hire a maid on a one-time thing to scrub my floors and toilets and tubs. #2 - I challenged him to a contest - each item on the list is worth a point. Everything on the list has to be done by next Wednesday (idea being that I want to start my new job with a spotless house), and whoever has the most points on that list gets bought dinner of their choice by the other person, maximum value $100.00. His eyes lit up when I said this... and he took up my challenge. Now he's plotting ways to try and win the contest. Little does he realize, either way, we both win. Even if I have to buy dinner, I win because he helped me with the housework. If I win, I get dinner of my choice (Olive Garden!) and he still helped me with the housework.
And then he's been warned that once the house is clean, I'm making chore lists to keep up with it. especially since my free time is taking a 10 hour a week hit.
The rest of the stress is just me and my stupid mental shit, related to the fact that one of his sisters got engaged last night after only dating for 6 months (and they're so not in a situation like you and Rick - they barely acknowledged they were dating for like the first 3 months of that). So Ian and I got into a big discussion last night and it left me feeling really strange.
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Date: 2010-07-15 07:02 pm (UTC)As for home, that's actually starting to get a lot better, but I appreciate the thought. :) I discovered one of Ian's weaknesses - he has a BIG competitive streak. I made a big to-do list for getting the apartment into shape, and broke it down into small specific chunks. Being able to check items off on a list and see a bunch of check marks piling up works well to fuel my motivation, and that was the original thought in making the list.
But then I had an idea. I told Ian he had two choices. #1 - I do all the tidying/organizing/putting away, and then hire a maid on a one-time thing to scrub my floors and toilets and tubs. #2 - I challenged him to a contest - each item on the list is worth a point. Everything on the list has to be done by next Wednesday (idea being that I want to start my new job with a spotless house), and whoever has the most points on that list gets bought dinner of their choice by the other person, maximum value $100.00. His eyes lit up when I said this... and he took up my challenge. Now he's plotting ways to try and win the contest. Little does he realize, either way, we both win. Even if I have to buy dinner, I win because he helped me with the housework. If I win, I get dinner of my choice (Olive Garden!) and he still helped me with the housework.
And then he's been warned that once the house is clean, I'm making chore lists to keep up with it. especially since my free time is taking a 10 hour a week hit.
The rest of the stress is just me and my stupid mental shit, related to the fact that one of his sisters got engaged last night after only dating for 6 months (and they're so not in a situation like you and Rick - they barely acknowledged they were dating for like the first 3 months of that). So Ian and I got into a big discussion last night and it left me feeling really strange.