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more wedding stuff
Jun. 9th, 2011 11:08 amMore wedding stuffs... I'm sure at some point this will drop off as I get used to the whole idea and calm down. I'm just too excited at this point.
Firstly... I have a matron of honour! After yesterday's hornet's nest that I stirred up, I decided I didn't want to wait until I could see my potential MoH in person to ask her, and so I called instead. Thank you,![[livejournal.com profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/external/lj-userinfo.gif)
melspeth, for agreeing to be my Matron of Honour. You're awesome.
Haha, I just realized that my entire wedding party is on lj...melspeth, fiodior, and technically my sister is on here, though she hasn't posted since 2005 so I'm not even going to bother linking to her.
Secondly... it is decided, we will definitely NOT be going with the early afternoon ceremony, evening non-dinner reception. A few of the comments on yesterday's post gave me some other ideas to think about, and I'm sure we'll figure out something that both Ian and I like, which will also work for the majority of our guests. Yes, it's OUR wedding and we need to be happy with what we're doing, but at the same time, we don't want to do something so strange that our friends end up weirded out or something.
Thirdly, I'm a little concerned that the way I am talking about things may be coming across badly for both Ian and I. There's a reason I'm NOT a writer... and even now I'm having difficulty figuring out the right way to word things.
a. Yes, I'm a pretty take-charge kind of person especially when it comes to organizing things, but Ian is definitely going to have plenty of input on pretty much everything (except my dress, of course!) I may have to coax it out of him a bit at a time, but I'm definitely taking his wishes into consideration.
b. Regarding doing things as a potluck, Ian has a very good point. I keep looking at things solely from a financial standpoint, and he turns around and brings up perfectly reasonable reasons against. Yes, a potluck would be cheap for us, but it also brings the risk that we could end up being remembered for being the wedding that got everyone sick because someone brought a potluck contribution that was a big fail. He's concerned about Foodsafe, and he also was concerned about the fact that the food styles wouldn't be cohesive, and would be a big range of really good to not very good at all. So, I've agreed with him.... no potluck. We will figure out another solution. We started talking last night about the possibility of having one of my SCA friends do the catering, since I suspect that would be a ton cheaper than a professional caterer, and I know a few people who are amazing cooks who might be willing to help out.
c. Regarding the SCA style wedding, Ian mentioned to me last night that the reason he doesn't want to do that isn't actually because he "hates the SCA" (which he really doesn't). He may not be interested in the SCA the way I am, but he doesn't want the wedding to be all SCA-ified because it doesn't have much meaning to him. It's not one of his interests. He wants our wedding to have meaning to both of us, and of COURSE I totally understand this. So... we're putting on our thinking caps for other ideas. We've discussed a few other things that he really DID like the idea of. We'll get there eventually. :) I keep having to remind myself we have PLENTY of time.
I'm pretty suremelspeth is going to be a godsend for wedding planning... and not just because she's planned two of her own. Mel, I think you've got to be the most level-headed person I've ever met in my life. :) She's made a few suggestions to me yesterday both in LJ comments and on the phone that are awesome, and right now Ian is thinking about what are the most important things he wants our wedding to be, and what are his most and least important things to have veto power over. And we will talk more during the drive to Port Alberni tomorrow (4 hours in the car with Ian and the dog... oh yay :) and I think that will help a ton.
Firstly... I have a matron of honour! After yesterday's hornet's nest that I stirred up, I decided I didn't want to wait until I could see my potential MoH in person to ask her, and so I called instead. Thank you,
melspeth, for agreeing to be my Matron of Honour. You're awesome.Haha, I just realized that my entire wedding party is on lj...
melspeth, fiodior, and technically my sister is on here, though she hasn't posted since 2005 so I'm not even going to bother linking to her.Secondly... it is decided, we will definitely NOT be going with the early afternoon ceremony, evening non-dinner reception. A few of the comments on yesterday's post gave me some other ideas to think about, and I'm sure we'll figure out something that both Ian and I like, which will also work for the majority of our guests. Yes, it's OUR wedding and we need to be happy with what we're doing, but at the same time, we don't want to do something so strange that our friends end up weirded out or something.
Thirdly, I'm a little concerned that the way I am talking about things may be coming across badly for both Ian and I. There's a reason I'm NOT a writer... and even now I'm having difficulty figuring out the right way to word things.
a. Yes, I'm a pretty take-charge kind of person especially when it comes to organizing things, but Ian is definitely going to have plenty of input on pretty much everything (except my dress, of course!) I may have to coax it out of him a bit at a time, but I'm definitely taking his wishes into consideration.
b. Regarding doing things as a potluck, Ian has a very good point. I keep looking at things solely from a financial standpoint, and he turns around and brings up perfectly reasonable reasons against. Yes, a potluck would be cheap for us, but it also brings the risk that we could end up being remembered for being the wedding that got everyone sick because someone brought a potluck contribution that was a big fail. He's concerned about Foodsafe, and he also was concerned about the fact that the food styles wouldn't be cohesive, and would be a big range of really good to not very good at all. So, I've agreed with him.... no potluck. We will figure out another solution. We started talking last night about the possibility of having one of my SCA friends do the catering, since I suspect that would be a ton cheaper than a professional caterer, and I know a few people who are amazing cooks who might be willing to help out.
c. Regarding the SCA style wedding, Ian mentioned to me last night that the reason he doesn't want to do that isn't actually because he "hates the SCA" (which he really doesn't). He may not be interested in the SCA the way I am, but he doesn't want the wedding to be all SCA-ified because it doesn't have much meaning to him. It's not one of his interests. He wants our wedding to have meaning to both of us, and of COURSE I totally understand this. So... we're putting on our thinking caps for other ideas. We've discussed a few other things that he really DID like the idea of. We'll get there eventually. :) I keep having to remind myself we have PLENTY of time.
I'm pretty sure
melspeth is going to be a godsend for wedding planning... and not just because she's planned two of her own. Mel, I think you've got to be the most level-headed person I've ever met in my life. :) She's made a few suggestions to me yesterday both in LJ comments and on the phone that are awesome, and right now Ian is thinking about what are the most important things he wants our wedding to be, and what are his most and least important things to have veto power over. And we will talk more during the drive to Port Alberni tomorrow (4 hours in the car with Ian and the dog... oh yay :) and I think that will help a ton.