Welp, tell him he doesn't have to eat the food. I think he would be pleasntly surprised, especially if some of your friends are expert barbecuers.
Both at my wedding and my friend's, had so many delicious dishes, had to try them all! For my friend's, I started a group for invitees on FB where folks would note what they are willing and able to bring. People love this idea instead of buying presents for the most part.
Do have a professional make the edding cake tho.
When the groom and bride have a limited budget to work with, this is the best...we did this 14 years ago and people are still talking about my wedding and how much fun it was!
But regarding Ian's food snobbery, do not kid yourselves that you'll get the time to eat much of anything, except a bite of cake. Even at a sit-down reception, everyone is there because of the two of you and there will be constant conversational demands. The dress is for you, and the pictures are for you both, but any kind of reception is all about your families and friends.
I've helped relatives throw potluck weddings, and they all turned out fine. The main tip I'd have for you, aside from the signup sheet, is to consider portions. If you're feeding over 100 people, the typical "potluck" or "family reunion" size recipe won't feed everyone. If you're getting a side of beef, have more than one person bring potatoes (either the same type, or one 5lb tray of mashed, one of roasted, some double-baked, etc).
This is an excellent point. My sister and her husband didn't get to eat a THING at their wedding, because they had to make all the rounds throughout the night, greeting everyone, thanking everyone for coming, and then of course there was the formal dances, the cake cutting, etc.
So, so true. We actually hired dancers to do a 15 min performance at ours so we had time to eat. My husband is a diabetic and needed to know that time had been set aside, or likely neither of us would have eaten a thing.
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Both at my wedding and my friend's, had so many delicious dishes, had to try them all! For my friend's, I started a group for invitees on FB where folks would note what they are willing and able to bring. People love this idea instead of buying presents for the most part.
Do have a professional make the edding cake tho.
When the groom and bride have a limited budget to work with, this is the best...we did this 14 years ago and people are still talking about my wedding and how much fun it was!
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But regarding Ian's food snobbery, do not kid yourselves that you'll get the time to eat much of anything, except a bite of cake. Even at a sit-down reception, everyone is there because of the two of you and there will be constant conversational demands. The dress is for you, and the pictures are for you both, but any kind of reception is all about your families and friends.
I've helped relatives throw potluck weddings, and they all turned out fine. The main tip I'd have for you, aside from the signup sheet, is to consider portions. If you're feeding over 100 people, the typical "potluck" or "family reunion" size recipe won't feed everyone. If you're getting a side of beef, have more than one person bring potatoes (either the same type, or one 5lb tray of mashed, one of roasted, some double-baked, etc).
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